Let me start out by saying… no matter what you choose to do or don’t do, I will never judge you. I know, as moms, we are all the same. We all just want the very best for our babies : cry it out method or no tear method, vaccines vs. no vaccines, breast feeding vs. formula, co-sleeping vs. crib sleeping blah blah blah. There is no right vs. wrong & we are all doing the best, we are all giving it our all, we are all amazing mamas! We won’t agree on everything, but I can promise you that I will never tell you that you are doing it the wrong way and I am doing it the right way. I don’t believe it’s black and white like that.


I truly believe sleep is a gift to our babies. I saw the difference in Dax, when he was not sleeping as much verses when he was, and it has been a night & day difference. A true gift. I am not a doctor (obviously), I am just a mom who is figuring it out as I go. I don’t have it all together, and things change from day to day, but following these guidelines have helped give us a structure to follow. I have been on the other side, the side where you maybe are, and I know it sucks. I don’t want to sit here and have it seem like I am bragging about how my baby was sleeping through the night at 2 month old, but I simply want to give you hope that you can train your baby to love sleep.

The amount of times I went back and forth between doing a schedule and not doing a schedule is ridiculous. If you could’ve seen the dialog I was having with myself in my head you would’ve felt overwhelmed for me. I am so indecisive! I decided to finally do it, when I realized how exhausted I was… truly exhausted! Dax was one of those FOMO babies, that needed a schedule if he was ever going to take naps and if I wanted to keep my sanity! Every baby is different (I’m hoping my next is a tad bit easier lol), but this is what worked for us with this babe. If you are struggling (like I was) then I know you feel the same… you’ll try ANYTHING!!! 

For Dax, we followed the principles taught in the book Baby Wise. After reading the book Baby Wise & asking my pediatrician, we decided to start sleep training when Dax was about 7 weeks old. It’s hard to put into words exactly how things go… because honestly, every single day something changes, doesn’t go as planned, I make a wrong decision, blah blah blah (but I did my absolute best to give you a guide to follow).  I would suggest first, getting the book Babywise and especially reading chapters 5, 6 and 7. From there you will take it and alter it to fit your baby like I did. Since doing a schedule, I have learned so much about Dax. I know when he is tired, hungry, or doesn’t feel good.



Thanks to a couple super moms who told me I needed to do this, Dax was already on a 3 hour feeding schedule, give or take 15 minutes here or there. As time goes on, you will learn your babies cries and pick up on different cues (like when they may have hit a growth spurt and needing more food more often). I fed him at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm, & 10pm.

*Before we started sleep training, Dax was up 2 times in the middle of the night. During sleep training we got it down to 1 time in the middle of the night, with the exception of two nights when he regressed & went back to waking up 2 times in the middle of the night (which is common). After a couple of weeks, about 2 months old, he was completely sleeping through the night (7am-7pm with his dream feed at 10pm which I woke him up for before I went to bed).*

I fed him at 7pm, burped him, and he was in bed by 7:30 for bedtime. The first few days of sleep training he would cry and cry and cry, but he learned quickly. After a couple of days he would go down so easy; he knew it was bedtime and started separating night from day. Based on BabyWise, most babies drop this 10pm dream feed between weeks 10 and 15,

Babywise suggests adding in another feeding in the day (when they drop the nighttime feedings). I added in the extra feeding for a couple days, but then realized he didn’t actually need it. We used Babywise as a guideline and did what worked best for us. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error, and it can get frustrating, but it will only last a couple days. Just remind yourself at this point… your baby will be sleeping through the night, so that in itself is an amazing thing. The main goal of sleep training is a baby who sleeps through the night.


The plan…. feed your baby, then you change their diaper and have “play time” (which will get progressively longer as your baby gets older), then you lay them down for a nap. The only feeding’s I didn’t do this with were the 7pm and the 10pm, when I just fed him, burped him, and laid him right down.

SIDE NOTE : After he was sleep trained, if there is ever a random time he did fall asleep after I fed him, I would just lay there and hold him and rock him. It usually only lasted about 20 min, but I would just soak it up. Once your baby is sleep trained, the best thing you can do is BE FLEXIBLE… because there will be things like growth spurts, teething, tummy aches, family vacations & holidays that will mess with your “schedule”. They also grow SO DANG FAST… so above all else, enjoy your baby! When they wake up early from their nap, & are clearly not tired anymore, go get them and do something fun with that extra time you get with them! I don’t care how long Dax sleeps anymore, as long as he got enough sleep to be happy when he is awake!

At 10 weeks old this is an overall of what our day looked like (most often but not always):

7am : eat, play sleep

10am : eat, play sleep

1pm : eat, play sleep

4pm : eat, play sleep

6:30pm : bathtime

7pm : eat, sleep

10pm : change diaper first, eat, sleep (no lights, no talking)

  • For naps, Dax didn’t always sleep the perfect amount of time, he liked waking up early. I usually would wait it out and noticed that if I let him lay in his crib (even if he did get a little fussy or his eyes were wide open), he would usually go back to sleep. Granted this is not always true & sometimes I just got him up early from naps. But you will learn all about your baby, and know when to leave them or get them. When they wake up, pause before you go in and get them. Sometimes I got Dax, and would end up regretting it when I realize he is still tired.
  • When Dax was officially “sleep trained” I would sometimes rock him before I laid him down, especially at night. Before his daytime naps the rocking would only last a couple minutes, but sometimes longer. There was a solid month between Thanksgiving & Christmas when I started rocking Dax to sleep all-the-time (and wouldn’t lay him down until he was asleep) and I was totally ok with it. After about 2 months of doing that, Dax was 6 months, I started going back to laying him down when I noticed him getting tired and he easily would fall asleep on his own. My baby was growing up and loving sleep and his bed.
  • Even after your baby is sleep trained there may still be times when he/she cries when you lay them down. Dax sometimes would cry for about 15 seconds, even after I considered him sleep trained. There have also been times after he was sleep trained, when he would cry longer than 15 seconds, and I would go in and pick him up to make sure he didn’t need to burp. Sometimes he did burp, but sometimes he just needed that extra little love and would fall asleep almost instantly in my arms. You learn as you go. Give yourself grace & do your best.


So hard in the moment, but your hard work will pay off. I suggest just reading this whole chapter in the book if you decide to use this method. Read it while you are in the middle of actually doing it, to remind yourself of why you are doing it. I had so many different opinions about when was the perfect time to start this, but after talking to our pediatrician and following this book, we decided we needed to do this for Dax. He DID NOT (notice past tense) like taking naps in the day, and that is a big part of the schedule that gets them on their way to sleeping through the night. Now saying he loves naps is a huge understatement… he gets cranky when it’s nap time and that’s how I know I better lay him down or let him get comfy in my arms (BECAUSE THIS KID DOESN’T LIKE MISSING HIS NAP TIME)!

I would bounce Dax a little and wait until his eyes were drowsy, before I laid him down, just to make sure he was in fact tired. I would then lay him in his crib with his eyes open. I failed sometimes, and went in his room to soothe him sooner than I should’ve. One time (ok two if I’m being really honest) I just gave up & went in to rescue him… we went downstairs, opened the windows, turned on some Jack Johnson, lit a candle & had an early bath time. Looking back I think the more you make yourself stick to your guns, the faster you can get through it all. I would lay him down, wait 10 minutes (SET A TIMER), and if he was still crying I would go in & pat him on his back as I whispered “it’s ok…. shhhh shhhh shhhhh” for about 30 seconds then I would walk out. Repeat as many times as needed. Lucky for me, I rarely had to go in a second time, but I do know mama’s who had to go in multiple times, so do not give up hope. Just keep reminding yourself you are doing this for your baby.



We dropped a feeding around 4 months & went to eating every 4 hours. We also introduced purée foods between 4 and 5 months.

7am : eat, play sleep

11am : eat, play sleep

3pm : eat, play, sleep

5:30/6pm : bathtime

7pm : eat, play sleep


We put a little time between giving him his bottle & giving him his food. At this point you will know so much about your baby & their specific cries (last night I had to go in three times after I laid Dax down, because I could tell by the way he was crying that he needed to burp). Not every night is perfect, but for the most part he is still sleeping through the night 7pm-7am.

7am : eat (bottle)

8am : eat (mashed banana & baby cereal)

9am: nap time (if your baby wakes up early from his nap, do something fun to keep them busy until their next feeding)

11am : eat (bottle)

12pm : eat (vegetable)

1pm: nap time

3pm : eat (bottle), play

4:30pm/5pm : short nap (but not always necessary depending on how long his first 2 naps were)

5/5:30pm : eat (vegetable), bathtime

7pm : eat (bottle) *Dax usually takes all three naps, but when he doesn’t take his last nap, I feed him as early as 6:30 and he is in bed by 7.*

I hope this helps, Just remember… every baby is different. Use the feeding schedule to get on a good schedule during the day, & most often, the night sleeping will fall into place! Don’t stress if your naps aren’t perfect, or if nothing is perfect! I did stress in the beginning, & now that I am more carefree, everything is that much better!




I wish I could go back in time, knowing then what I know now about breastfeeding, but I have spent enough days living in the past. I have wasted enough tears wondering “what if” & not giving myself the grace I need to move on as a mom who stopped breastfeeding her baby way sooner than she wished. I hope this post can be helpful to even just one person & make the transition into motherhood & breastfeeding a little smoother.



  • Drink Mamas Milk Tea
  • You can take a supplement of Fenugreek &/or “Let There Be Milk” drops
  • Get this Milk Boosting Essential Oil & start using it before your baby arrives.
  • Take a breastfeeding class
  • Plug into a Breastfeeding Support Group
  • Stock your fridge with easy to grab food for when you come home for the hospital. I wish I would have gotten a ton of cold pressed juices & healthy granola bars. Oatmeal helps & you can even have lactation cookies pre-made & waiting for you when you get home.
  • Drink water all day long (they say 6-8 ounces every time your baby breastfeeds). Get a big water bottle & make yourself drink it constantly, or fill your fridge with easy to grab water bottles.

I think these last two things would’ve helped me a ton… eating more food & drinking more water. I was completely overwhelmed, & tired, & had no appetite. I wasn’t taking care of myself & I definitely wasn’t drinking enough water.

Give yourself grace as you & your baby learn how to breastfeed. You can ask to see a lactation consultant while you are at the hospital, they can be super helpful, just be careful not to let them overwhelm you. I saw three different lactation consultants, one in the hospital & two that came to my house after I came home. *Most cities have lactation consultants that will come to your house after you are home. Ask the hospital for that number before you leave.* The lactation consultant that I had in the hospital made me feel like I was doing it all wrong. Although she gave me tons of helpful information, the two ways she was showing me to get my baby to latch just wasn’t working for me. It made me feel inadequate & like I was NEVER going to get it. I wanted to cry. The last lactation consultant I saw, came to my house & was amazing. There are so many different ways to get your baby to latch on correctly, just be patient as you both learn what works best.

If you are having problems with your milk supply, start pumping after every feeding. It’s all about demand & supply. The more your body thinks you need, the more it will make.


Let me just start out by saying, you are not alone. I love all the breastfeeding awareness posts, & I think breastfeeding is truly such a magical & wonderful thing, but it can make someone who can’t breastfeed (for whatever reason) feel rotten, or even like their baby is going to suffer because they are on formula. You are not alone. Don’t give your negative thoughts life. Let go of the unneeded clutter, and only allow for thoughts that allow you to progress. Clear mind, happy soul. Hold your baby close to you when you bottle feed. Still do skin to skin with your baby. Don’t read anything on the internet. Focus on all the positives… clear mind, happy soul.



It’s crazy that they just let us leave the hospital with our newborn, when (as new parents) we really had NO IDEA WHAT THE HELL WE WERE DOING. We left the hospital, a place where there were doctors and nurses who could jump in and take control if something were wrong, and we headed home feeling excited for this new adventure. We pulled into the drive way and talked about how we were going to introduce the dogs to the baby. We gave Dax a tour of his new home, and life as we knew it quickly began to change. That’s when I realized a new kind of fear had settled in.

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As a first time mom, I found myself worrying about every single little thing:

  • Is he breathing too hard?
  • Is he breathing too soft?
  • Is he breathing at all?
  • Is he hot?
  • Is he cold?
  • Why is he crying?
  • Why is his nose stuffy?
  • Did he get enough to eat?

Before we started using Owlet, whether Dax was taking a nap or had been put down for the night, we would constantly be checking on him to make sure he was breathing (like every other parent with a newborn). At this point, when any amount of sleep is cherished, having the Owlet baby monitor is like PURE GOLD. Nothing can compare to having peace of mind. If I wake up in the middle of the night, instead of holding my breath as I wait for his chest to rise and fall with air, I open my Owlet app and instantly see his heart rate and oxygen level. I am not anxious in the least bit, because I already know that everything is ok. If something had been wrong, the little owl on my phone would’ve alerted me. I feel a peace and calm wash over me as I fall back asleep watching the numbers blink back & forth at me.

Just a couple nights ago, we were worried Dax was having trouble breathing. We knew irregular breathing & snorting noises (just to name a few) were common things for newborns, but it seemed a little harder than normal for him to get a good breath. We quickly grabbed the Owlet sock and put it on him. Knowing his readings were normal, we were able to wait to take him to the doctors until the next morning. If we didn’t have it, I know without a doubt, we would’ve been up all night long, and possibly would’ve taken him to the emergency room. Paranoid parents, maybe… but these are our babies we are talking about!!! Peace of mind…. you can’t put a price tag on it.


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  • DON’T FREAK OUT at the first sign of an abnormal reading, aka Red Alert. Obviously, always check on your baby before anything else, but sometimes you can get a false reading (and there is no need to stress your heart out when you don’t need to). When I got my first Red Alert, I disconnected from the monitor & then reconnected to find normal readings. Come up with a plan ahead of time. Being prepared will help you remain calm, rather than stressed at the first sign of a Red Alert. If it is more than a false alarm, your plan will come in handy, & everyone in the house will be on the same page.
  • SET IT UP BEFORE YOUR BABY ARRIVES. The set up process is super easy, & knowing how to use it beforehand will make it so you can use it from day 1. Figure out a location for the base station, & get it charged & ready to go.
  • DISCONNECT during nighttime feedings. If you move too far from the base station, it will alert. So, unless you want to wake up your sleeping husband… disconnect! You can reconnect, at the click of a button, when you get your babe back down.

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“Raise the roof if you love Owlet!” -Dax

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